My best advice to all of the parents of all the kids in my church is really simple. Never – and I mean never – let you kids leave your home! If you want to avoid the insides of your heart physically aching just don’t let them leave. My next piece of advice is this. Ignore my first piece of advice! Yes as hard as it is to let your birds fly from your nest, and as tempting as it is to keep them in the nest, the very thing you cannot do is keep them in the nest. We’ve got to let our kids fly.
If you’ve been reading this blog you’ll know that last week we dropped off our son at college. I want to share with you this one little moment that struck me as so beautiful. The college my son is attending had this great little convocation where all the professors surrounded the incoming freshman in a big circle, prayed a blessing over them, and then shook their hands. At the end of this convocation ceremony it was time for the moms, dads and families to say goodbye. Tears were flowing! As my wife and I started walking out of the gym, towards that moment we would say goodbye we saw this one mom weeping. We didn’t know this sweet mom from Adam, but my wife – God bless her – went out of her way as she was crying her own tears to go over and hug this other mom. These two mom’s, who didn’t even know each other, were frozen there in this one moment of pride and pain and it was just exquisite to me. God has given the human race this amazing capacity to share our joys and our sorrows, and it’s beautiful.