I’m having the great pleasure of meeting every Sunday night with 12 men (yes 12) from our church who want to grow in their faith. The first component of our time together is trying to dig up the stinking thoughts, emotions and stories we tell ourselves as men so that we can abandon that which is destructive in favor of the good things God has for each of us. As I’m leading this group of men I’m reminded over and over of a great quote by Dr. Jim Loehr who wrote the New York Times bestseller “The Power of Story.” Loehr simply said, “The most important story you will ever tell is the story you tell to yourself.”
We tell stories to our kids, fish stories that get exaggerated, life-lessons, pivotal moments of history, and we even tell the story of the Gospel. Those stories are important and good, but they don’t influence nearly as much as we’d like to think. In reality, the most important story that defines our attitudes, and our actions is the story we’re repeatedly telling to ourselves over and over – machining it, shaping it, and fitting it to become the story we assume to be true about ourselves. The great question is simply – Does our story stink or is it life-giving?