I honestly don’t know why I’m on a kick of recalling things said by Ruth and Billy Graham, but here’s another one. As I blog about marriage this month there’s another thoughtful observation the Graham’s once made that’s always stuck with me. When they were interviewed about their marriage years ago they observed, “Every marriage has its own unique challenges but every marriage will deal with the issues of money, sex, and communication.”
Their insight has always stuck with me. Every marriage is quite unique in the ways it is challenged with very difficult struggles. Every marriage is also unique in the ways it is uniquely blessed with gifts and attributes everyone else around them admires. But every marriage will struggle with money issues, sex issues, and communication issues. Every couple will find themselves wrestling over very different values and goals when it comes to money management. Every couple will find themselves wrestling over their unique sexual needs and desires so as to somehow engage in mutually satisfying sexual intimacy. Every couple, no matter how good they are with words, will find themselves struggling to communicate effectively.
So when we face the challenges of money, sex, and communication in our marriages we don’t have to feel like “we’re the only ones.” Every marriage, including the healthiest of marriages we most admire, have to deal with these three big issues, and then continue to grow in these areas throughout their entire marriage. Hey, if Billy and Ruth Graham had to deal with the issues of money, sex, and communication I think the rest of us don’t have to feel so bad when we face the same issues.