The List

I don’t know about everyone else, but when I began looking for my future spouse I had a list. My list contained all of my hopes and dreams, my “wouldn’t it be great if” desires, and my basic needs in a future spouse. I went about the whole process assuming I knew exactly what I needed. Then I entered into reality, and reality opened my eyes to see that I didn’t really know what I needed. God alone knew my actual needs.

For me, the beginning stages of entering a healthy relationship with my wife was the necessary surrender of my list. I had to admit that I really didn’t know what I needed in the end, and the only way I was going to enjoy what I actually needed was to ask God to show me what He thought I needed. What’s interesting is to me is that God’s absolute best for me (my wife) did not match many of the bullet points I had on my list, yet she is an exact fit for my needs which also turns out to be exactly what I want. My relationship with my amazing wife shows me that I need to be careful when I assume my list is the right list for my life.

About Andy Lewis

Andy is an author, pastor, and musician who lives in Santa Cruz California. Currently he serves as lead pastor at Faith Community Church in Santa Cruz
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