Over the last three posts we’ve walked through core truths from Ephesians 1 about a believer’s new identity. Let me try to explain why the gift of a new identity is so important. When I was a teenager and early 20-something I believed that – “I am not a catch!” Through it all, my Mom kept insisting, “That’s not true. You’re special and you’ll be quite a catch for a young lady someday!” I honestly didn’t really believe her, but I will tell you one thing – every time some new girl or experience hurt me and tempted me to believe I was a nothing, I sat down in the all-safe-all-the-time-blame-free-zone I knew I had with my Mom where I would just talk. In the living room of my parent’s home I would get out of my system all of my anger, and my hurt, and my questions. Mom would listen a lot, tell me she loved me, cry with me, and tell me what she knew to be true about me, even though I had a hard time believing that someday I (the one who I believed was not a catch) would meet someone special. Each time we talked I had to make a decision. Would I see my “dating self” through my eyes or through my Mom’s eyes. I had to ask myself, “Am I going to be the undesirable man I think I am or the catch my Mom thinks I am or will be?” It was an important decision because it would go a long way to determine the kind of man I would be when in a relationship with a woman. I don’t know when it happened, but over time a resolution was formed deep in my heart. In the same way water can cut through granite over time, my Mom’s view of me cut through my granite-hard poor view of me. Had I continued to believe what I thought of me, no one would have ever wanted to date me again. But because I thought that at least my Mom might be right, I was open and I was ready when an amazing woman named Aleta (my wife) walked into my life. Had I not believed my Mom might be right, I would have walked away from an incredible woman. Since I believed Mom might be right, I was ready for the woman she’d told me would be waiting for me on the other side of all my hurt.
What my Mom provided to me, is exactly what God longs to provide us – if we’d only hang with Him! You see, according to God’s word, the truest thing about me is what God thinks about me, and He likes what He sees. A new quality of life begins when we make the transition from how we see ourselves over to how God sees us. Over time His view of us will cut through our granite-hard poor view of ourselves and free us from the shame that inhibits us and isolates us. Jesus Christ offers all of us a vitally important choice. On the one hand we can continue to accept our view of ourselves as the truest thing about us – remaining enslaved by our “perception deficit disorder.” On the other hand, we can accept God’s view of us as the truest thing about us. When we accept God’s view of us, our perception deficit will fade away and we will grow into the masterpiece God always envisioned us to be.
We’re the ones who decide whose view of us will define our lives. We can play the victimization card, and complain that “they made me feel this way about myself,” but the truth is no one made us believe anything about ourselves. We alone are the ones who freely chose what to believe about ourselves. We look at ourselves and rarely like what we see. Will we continue to believe our suspicions about God and ourselves? God looks at every believer and adores what He sees. Will we believe what God has proven on a cross, and says in His word? Right now you get to begin again with God. Right now, armed with accurate information, you can begin to let God’s view of you heal and redefine your self-perception.